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Self-Help

When Your Adult Child Breaks Your Heart

Another major issue is our support or stigmatization of those with adult children who are a major risk to their families as well to society itself. This book is part of that conversation.

Author: Joel L. Young

Publisher: Lyons Press

ISBN: 0762792973

Category: Self-Help

Page: 264

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Behind nearly every adult who is accused of a crime, becomes addicted to drugs or alcohol, or who is severely mentally ill and acting out in public, there is usually at least one extremely stressed-out parent. This parent may initially react with the bad news of their adult child behaving badly with, "Oh no!" followed by, "How can I help to fix this?" A very common third reaction is the thought, "Where did I go wrong--was it something I said or did, or that I failed to do when my child was growing up that caused these issues? Is this really somehow all my fault?" These parents then open their homes, their pocketbooks, their hearts, and their futures to "saving" their adult child--who may go on to leave them financially and emotionally broken. Sometimes these families also raise the children their adult children leave behind: 1.6 million grandparents in the U.S. are in this situation. This helpful book presents families with quotations and scenarios from real suffering parents (who are not identified), practical advice, and tested strategies for coping. It also discusses the fact that parents of adult children may themselves need therapy and medications, especially antidepressants. The book is written in a clear, reassuring manner by Dr. Joel L. Young, medical director of the Rochester Center for Behavioral Medicine in Rochester Hills, Michigan; with noted medical writer Christine Adamec, author of many books in the field. In the wake of the Newtown shooting and the viral popularity of the post "I Am Adam Lanza's Mother," America is now taking a fresh look, not only at gun control, but also on how we treat mental illness. Another major issue is our support or stigmatization of those with adult children who are a major risk to their families as well to society itself. This book is part of that conversation.
2013-12-03 By Joel L. Young
Religion

Setting Boundaries with Your Adult Children

I must also add that this isn't a book about drug-proofing your kids or a how-to manual about making rebellious ... For all of us who want to break free from the stranglehold our adult children have on our hearts—for those of us who ...

Author: Allison Bottke

Publisher: Harvest House Publishers

ISBN: 9780736976688

Category: Religion

Page: 224

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This important and compassionate new book from the creator of the successful God Allows U-Turns series will help parents and grandparents of the many adult children who continue to make life painful for their loved ones. Writing from firsthand experience, Allison identifies the lies that kept her, and ultimately her son in bondage—and how she overcame them. Additional real life stories from other parents are woven through the text. A tough–love book to help readers cope with dysfunctional adult children, Setting Boundaries® with Your Adult Children will empower families by offering hope and healing through S.A.N.I.T.Y.—a six–step program to help parents regain control in their homes and in their lives. S = STOP Enabling, STOP Blaming Yourself, and STOP the Flow of Money A = Assemble a Support Group N = Nip Excuses in the Bud I = Implement Rules/Boundaries T = Trust Your Instincts Y = Yield Everything to God Foreword by Carol Kent (When I Lay My Isaac Down)
2019-12-03 By Allison Bottke
Religion

How to Connect with Your Troubled Adult Children

In When Your Adult Child Breaks Your Heart, Dr. Joel Young is straightforward: “When your adult child threatens you, it means that he can no longer live in your home because you are not safe. Violence perpetrated by adult children can ...

Author: Allison Bottke

Publisher: Harvest House Publishers

ISBN: 9780736962391

Category: Religion

Page: 240

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What to Do When Parenting Gets Painfully Complicated Are your adult child’s mental, emotional, and physical health issues driving you to despair? Are you tempted to bail your son or daughter out of yet another impossible circumstance? When your child has reached (or long since passed) the point of independence, it’s difficult to know what your “help” as a parent should look like. From the author of bestseller Setting Boundaries® with Your Adult Children, Allison Bottke now offers an in-depth guide to help you connect with your troubled adult child, and to build your confidence, knowledge, and hope in challenging situations such as… drug addiction mental and emotional disabilities military trauma and PTSD personality disorders financial trouble depression and bipolar divorce incarceration …and so much more Whether you’re facing these problems for the first time or looking to learn more, take a step back and develop effective strategies to truly help your adult child—without sacrificing your sanity.
2019-01-08 By Allison Bottke
Religion

Doing Life with Your Adult Children

When they are older and make poor choices, they step all over your heart.” Of course, not all adult children break their parents' hearts, but the transition is still difficult for most and usually involves a great deal of loss.

Author: Jim Burns, Ph.D

Publisher: Zondervan

ISBN: 9780310353799

Category: Religion

Page: 192

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Are you struggling to connect with your child now that they've left the nest? Are you feeling the tension and heartache as your relationship dynamic begins to change? In Doing Life with Your Adult Children, bestselling author and parenting expert Jim Burns provides practical advice and hopeful encouragement for navigating this tough yet rewarding transition. If you've raised a child, you know that parenting doesn't stop when they turn eighteen. In many ways, your relationship gets even more complicated--your heart and your head are as involved as ever, but you can feel things shifting, whether your child lives under your roof or rarely stays in contact. Doing Life with Your Adult Children helps you navigate this rich and challenging season of parenting. Speaking from his own personal and professional experience, Burns offers practical answers to the most common questions he's received over the years, including: My child's choices are breaking my heart--where did I go wrong? Is it OK to give advice to my grown child? What's the difference between enabling and helping? What boundaries should I have if my child moves back home? What do I do when my child doesn't seem to be maturing into adulthood? How do I relate to my grown child's significant other? What does it mean to have healthy financial boundaries? How can I support my grown children when I don't support their values? Including positive principles on bringing kids back to faith, ideas on how to leave a legacy as a grandparent, and encouragement for every changing season, Doing Life with Your Adult Children is a unique book on your changing role in a calling that never ends.
2019-03-26 By Jim Burns, Ph.D
Religion

Matzah Balls to Communion Wafers

In When Your Adult Child Breaks Your Heart, AnnMarie Ambert wrote that the desire for parental pride, hard-wired into our brains, reflects our instinctive desire for immortality.2 Though Steve and I are educated, resourceful people with ...

Author: Gail Baker

Publisher: Wipf and Stock Publishers

ISBN: 9781532682049

Category: Religion

Page: 166

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When Baker yearns for something more, she discovers that the Christian message answers the deep yearning within each of us to resolve human suffering. Baker’s conversion is not a blinding-light epiphany, but a process spanning years of agonizing conflict, echoing twenty centuries of misunderstanding between Christians and Jews. Living in the same city as her chagrined parents, she is forced to process difficulties related to family dynamics, group loyalty, and identity politics. Readers will be emboldened by Baker’s decision to follow Christ at the risk of rupturing ties with family and community. Her book will appeal to all who seek God’s guidance in making difficult life decisions. This book is a must-read for Christians who wish to engage with their Jewish friends. The Jewish mindset is tenderly revealed, showing why so many Jews bristle at the mere mention of Jesus.
2019-07-29 By Gail Baker
Religion

How to Help Your Anxious Teen

Julie Lythcott-Haims, How to Raise an Adult: Break Free of the Overparenting Trap and Prepare Your Kid for Success (New York: ... ologytoday.com/us/blog/when-your-adult-child-breaks-your-heart/201701/the -effects-helicopter-parenting.

Author: Jessica Thompson

Publisher: Harvest House Publishers

ISBN: 9780736976725

Category: Religion

Page: 144

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Help Your Teen Find Joy and Peace If your son or daughter is suffering from anxiety, you probably have more questions than answers: What is causing the anxiety? Is this normal teenage angst or something more serious? What can I do to help? Jessica Thompson, the mother of three teens, has seen kids struggle with anxiousness. She wants you to understand the issues surrounding teenage anxiety and how our culture, the church, and perhaps even you may be contributing to the problem. The culture tells kids that it’s not okay to be normal, that social media is vital to their well-being, and that athletic, academic, and other accolades are all-important. The church, though well-intentioned, sometimes places undue pressure on teens to “do big things for God” and “be the best Christian you can be.” Caring parents may inadvertently overcorrect their teens’ behavior and try to control it (“helicopter parenting”). They may also use their kids’ accomplishments to build their own identity or try to be their children’s best friend. But there is help and hope for you and your teenager. When you equip yourself with truth from the gospel and the rest of God’s Word, you can help your child to cope with anxiety, and your family can experience greater freedom and peace.
2019-08-06 By Jessica Thompson
Family & Relationships

When Your Child Breaks Your Heart

I need my gift of humor so much, Lord. Will you revive it, ... June 23: Dr. Wells says that the deceit and smokescreen made Larry change from a normal bubbly son into a stranger. ... Larry is an adult man and I am an adult woman.

Author: Barbara Johnson

Publisher: Revell

ISBN: 9780800787752

Category: Family & Relationships

Page: 176

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Beloved author Barbara Johnson offers hope to families facing difficulty coming to terms with a child's decisions in life, sharing how God brought her through the deep waters--and how he will do the same for them.
2008-10 By Barbara Johnson
Family & Relationships

The Grandfamily Guidebook

Psychiatrist Joel Young, coauthor of When Your Adult Child Breaks Your Heart, advises that you should not let the birth parent get between you and an exit door in case you need to leave in a hurry. (Make sure the child is safe too.) ...

Author: Andrew Adesman

Publisher: Simon and Schuster

ISBN: 9781616497828

Category: Family & Relationships

Page: 416

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Are you one of nearly 3 million grandparents across North America raising your grandchildren as part of a grandfamily? You may have done all this parenting stuff before, but times have changed since you raised your own kids, and you likely never thought you’d be raising kids again. What has led to all these family issues and the growing need for grandparents to step up? Now more than ever, substance use and addiction have made many birth parents simply unfit for the job, whether the problem is alcohol, opioids, or other drugs. Family dynamics might also be undermined by parents’ mental health or medical problems, incarceration, or a simple lack of preparedness for family responsibilities. Whatever the reason for your new role, you must now help your grandchildren adjust to their extended family as part of their everyday life, through the best care you are able to provide. While your new role means that you will likely have to change the way you live, the kinship care you provide your grandchildren might make all the difference in the world. In The Grandfamily Guidebook—which leading medical experts have called a “must-have” resource for grandparents raising grandchildren—authors Andrew Adesman, MD, and Christine Adamec offer expert medical advice, helpful insights gleaned from other grandparents, and data mined from the 2016 Adesman Grandfamily Study—the broadest and most diverse research study of its kind to date. You’ll also find hands-on tips you’ll be able to reference whenever you need them, including how to cope with difficult birth parents, school issues and social-life challenges, problem behaviors that stem from a difficult past, and your own self-care. Starting with its foreword by the renowned Dr. William Sears, across this book you will find practical, inspiring help as you navigate the financial impacts, legal considerations, and medical issues that commonly arise when grandparents and grandchildren start becoming a grandfamily.
2018-08-28 By Andrew Adesman
Family & Relationships

Free Mother to Good Home

Your adult child's behavior may defy logic, boggle your mind, and break your heart as your try to understand why you're in this lonely state of pain and isolation. What did you do wrong? Why doesn't your child offer you the love and ...

Author: Kay Taylor

Publisher: BalboaPress

ISBN: 1452540020

Category: Family & Relationships

Page: 232

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Have you heard the words, “I never dared to treat my parents the way kids do today”? If you are a baby boomer or the parent of a tween, teen, or adult child, not only have you heard those words, you may have uttered them yourself. If, in this new age of child–parent relations, you’ve ever felt like a helpless puppy or kitten inside a box marked “Free to Good Home,”—if, in spite of all your love and the care with which you embraced parenting, your child has grown into an entitled and thoughtless power broker in your relationship—read on. Author Kay Taylor has studied sociology, parenting, blended families and personal growth for years; in this bold, groundbreaking book she explores the changes in our culture that she believes have given birth to what she describes as the E-generation—a generation of teens and young adults that feel so empowered and entitled that they often clash with their parents, creating a palpable power struggle within the family. This often leaves good parents alone, depressed, and completely befuddled as to what they did wrong. Free Mother to Good Home comes from the heart and experiences of an everyday parent in the trenches. Taylor offers a mother’s perspective, as well as a remedy for parental blues, helping parents know what they can do to get their houses and their lives back in order.
2011-11-14 By Kay Taylor
Psychology

Treating ADHD in Children and Adolescents

For more information on parenting children when you have adult ADHD, see the following resources: Additude Magazine: ... www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/when-your-adult-child-breaks-your-heart/201408/studyshows-adhd-treatment-improves- ...

Author: Russell A. Barkley

Publisher: Guilford Publications

ISBN: 9781462549658

Category: Psychology

Page: 362

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From foremost authority Russell A. Barkley, this book presents essential principles and practices for managing attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) in children and teens. Barkley interweaves the best scientific knowledge with lessons learned from decades of clinical practice and research. He provides guidelines and clinical tips for conducting thorough, accurate assessments and developing and implementing science-based treatment plans. The book is grounded in Barkley's theory of ADHD as a disorder of executive functioning and self-regulation. Ways to collaborate successfully with parents and other professionals are highlighted throughout. In a convenient large-size format, the volume includes 45 reproducible handouts and forms that can be downloaded and printed for repeated use.
2022-04-08 By Russell A. Barkley

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